Yes…. it’s really that bad.
Just a little blast from the past. Childhood nostalgia for girls who grew up in the 90s and early 2000s ♥
Girls these days don’t know what they’re missing out on.I can literally smell the cheap plasticmemories
I HAD EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE PLASTICY GOD SENDS OF THE 90S - 2000S. MEMORIES
- I am ill and I am disabled, and this is what I look like.
- What do you THINK disabled or ill people look like?
- It makes it sound like you think disabled people “should” look a bit gross or a bit wierd.
- It makes it sound like I have to prove my illness to you.
- It creates a hierarchy of what one ableist acquaintence called, “Like, you know. Disabled-disabled and normal people disabled. Like, you’re disabled but you’re also normal. You’re disabled but you’re also not really disabled because you’re also like us.” That is not okay.
- It makes it sound like if I did “look disabled” then you’d either think less of me or you’d believe me more.
- For the same reasons you wouldn’t say to someone, “You don’t look Jewish!”
- For the same reasons you wouldn’t say to someone, “You don’t sound black!”
- It often sets the conversation up in a way where you are the judge and you can either validate or invalidate my disability and how much it affects me.
- Neither my illnesses nor my disabilities are totally invisible if you took the time to learn about them and decided to pay attention.
- It makes you sound untrustworthy. It makes me think you’re going to be the kind of person that will jump to conclusions about my health if I don’t look or act in certain sterotypical ways. Can I laugh and have a good time around you without you implying I’m cured or dismissing my conditions? (Because it really sucks when you do that.)
- It feels really dismissive and discouraging.
- It is dehumanizing. 15% of the world’s population is disabled. We come in more shapes and sizes than able-bodied people do. Whatever a disabled or ill person looks like, that is what disabled and ill people look like regardless of your preconceptions.
There needs to be a phrase for “I acknowledge your apology and appreciate it but it does not make things better.” instead of just saying “It’s okay.” all the time.
I recognize the council has made an apology, but given that it is a stupid ass apology, I have elected to ignore it.
thank you director fury
Have you ever just looked at someone and thought, “I really love you”. They’re just talking or humming or watching a movie or reading a book or laughing or something, and there’s something about them in that moment that makes you think, “I just really love you”
Thank you everyone who replied to my post about being in hospital. I’m on my phone so cant answer you directly but I just wanted you all to know you are lovely people x
Ima bit better today. The migraines have quietened down and the pain killers are doing their job for everything else (morphine rocks)
It looks like I’ll be spending some time in respite care until my electric wheelchair comes and I can be independent enough to move into my own place again.
Thank you for all the support, you guys rock x